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Allysha Lavino's avatar

I can really feel the space these ideas create in my body. I love the paradox here— it feels like on the one hand, self-compassion doesn’t “do” anything. It’s not trying to fix or change us in any way. And yet the irony is that it actually does a lot. And in the end… it does change us.

Derek Lakin's avatar

That's so beautifully worded, Allysha! I couldn't have said it better myself.

Allysha Lavino's avatar

I love a good paradox!

Alex Katsulis's avatar

I resonate with all of these, Derek. Especially the bullshit detector going off when I first started trying to be more self-compassionate haha. I think you captured that feeling really well with your bullet points. It's like we need self-compassion about how we're struggling to have self-compassion, but of course, we're struggling to have self-compassion. All of the small victories do really add up when it comes to helping the ego step aside.

Derek Lakin's avatar

Thanks so much, Alex! That bullshit detector is in place to help protect us, but it can also be the biggest roadblock to accepting our own compassion. We just have to cringe our way through it lol. Small efforts, repeated daily.

Alex Katsulis's avatar

I suspect it has something to do with building trust with ourselves as the bullshit detector loses steam. We start to trust that we actually mean what we’re saying

Debbie.'s avatar

Spiritual Alchemy.. Working at it’s best. Without the ego, the soul becomes lost in direction.

TURBO GOTH's avatar

Compash is about others yo

Derek Lakin's avatar

Yes! It’s for everyone.

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Derek Lakin's avatar

Thanks so much, Anna! Isn't it odd how we have to practice being nice to ourselves? It's the least natural-feeling action for some reason. Congratulations on how far you've come. "I think it's not just about feeling better, but really getting better at feeling." - Spot on! Beautifully worded and I agree 100%.