You’ve grown so much brother, and who you are is not who you were. Life isn’t easy at times, and now you bring them so much more than you could have before. Be practising non-attachment, you may yet see how much they will be drawn to your energy in the coming years. You carry a depth that is lived, and transmitted by you just being. Know that you are worthy of love from many different sources.
Thank you for sharing this so openly—it really resonates with me. Reading your words, I felt the depth of your love and the care you bring to being present with your daughters now. I too have had moments of guilt about not being the parent I wanted to be in earlier years, especially when life and circumstances kept me from showing up as fully as I wished.
What really struck me is how you’ve turned that guilt into reflection and growth, using it as a bridge to strengthen your relationship rather than letting it pull you into shame. I recognize in your experience the same truth I’ve learned: our past mistakes don’t erase the ways we can show up today, and every small, mindful moment matters.
Your post is a beautiful reminder that parenting isn’t about perfection—it’s about presence, self-compassion, and courage to continue building connection, even when the past was hard. And in noticing the love and stability your children receive from their mother, you also model for them grace, resilience, and honesty.
Thank you so much, Nat. I've found it's so important to take ownership of my parenting failures, but instead of allowing them to pull me under, giving them the space to mindfully inform how I want to show up for them in the present.
Thank you for sharing your heart with us all Derek. As a recently divorced mom and going from full time to seeing my daughter half of the time…such an adjustment.
You are moving through this with such care for yourself and your daughters. They will remember and reflect when they are older.
I myself didn’t develop a close relationship with my dad until I was in my late twenties. It didn’t make up for the pain as a child, but it was healing and I cherish it all the same.
As they grow up and enter the world more they will see your example and it will speak volumes. Just like you’re sharing with us now.
You are doing ok..sharing is so helpful for us when we have pretty big issues like this. Huge life ones I know. Sending you my care and hope for more courageous connections as you navigate whatever is next. I’m a mum of a son with 4 children he doesn’t live with since marriage broke up but he also connects through each week and has them stay overnight etc.
Thank you so much, Denyse. I agree, writing is such a powerful tool for self-healing, and for letting others in similar situations know that they're not alone.
You’ve grown so much brother, and who you are is not who you were. Life isn’t easy at times, and now you bring them so much more than you could have before. Be practising non-attachment, you may yet see how much they will be drawn to your energy in the coming years. You carry a depth that is lived, and transmitted by you just being. Know that you are worthy of love from many different sources.
Thank you so much, Jaime. Your kind and compassionate words mean a lot. 🙏
Lots of good honest wisdom here, thank you for sharing.
I deeply appreciate it, Adam!
Thank you for sharing this so openly—it really resonates with me. Reading your words, I felt the depth of your love and the care you bring to being present with your daughters now. I too have had moments of guilt about not being the parent I wanted to be in earlier years, especially when life and circumstances kept me from showing up as fully as I wished.
What really struck me is how you’ve turned that guilt into reflection and growth, using it as a bridge to strengthen your relationship rather than letting it pull you into shame. I recognize in your experience the same truth I’ve learned: our past mistakes don’t erase the ways we can show up today, and every small, mindful moment matters.
Your post is a beautiful reminder that parenting isn’t about perfection—it’s about presence, self-compassion, and courage to continue building connection, even when the past was hard. And in noticing the love and stability your children receive from their mother, you also model for them grace, resilience, and honesty.
Thank you so much, Nat. I've found it's so important to take ownership of my parenting failures, but instead of allowing them to pull me under, giving them the space to mindfully inform how I want to show up for them in the present.
Thank you for sharing your heart with us all Derek. As a recently divorced mom and going from full time to seeing my daughter half of the time…such an adjustment.
You are moving through this with such care for yourself and your daughters. They will remember and reflect when they are older.
I myself didn’t develop a close relationship with my dad until I was in my late twenties. It didn’t make up for the pain as a child, but it was healing and I cherish it all the same.
As they grow up and enter the world more they will see your example and it will speak volumes. Just like you’re sharing with us now.
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Thank you deeply, Joy. May we all show up for ourselves, so we can also show up for our children.
You are doing ok..sharing is so helpful for us when we have pretty big issues like this. Huge life ones I know. Sending you my care and hope for more courageous connections as you navigate whatever is next. I’m a mum of a son with 4 children he doesn’t live with since marriage broke up but he also connects through each week and has them stay overnight etc.
Thank you so much, Denyse. I agree, writing is such a powerful tool for self-healing, and for letting others in similar situations know that they're not alone.
Loved the mediation part .
Bee of the hour for many of us indeed👍