I've learned so much more from the adversity in my life than the pleasant encounters. I also had to admit that the pain I suffered in relationships was mostly of my own doing.
Had I been willing to listen to what my higher self knew to be true, I could have spared myself a lot of grief. In retrospect, it was almost like gaslighting myself...experiencing one thing but insisting to myself no, it wasn't that at all.
People betray us for all sorts of reasons but the betrayals I have most grieved were the ones I inflicted on myself.
I have so much love in my life now because I finally know I AM love.
"Had I been willing to listen to what my higher self knew to be true, I could have spared myself a lot of grief." This resonates so deeply, Marla, thank you. I know in my instance, I hadn't yet learned to tune into my higher self, listen to what it had to say, or heed its advice. When we recognize that we are love, I think this aspect naturally falls into place. ❤️
Same for me, Derek. Be gentle with yourself. When we're ready, we're ready and not before. These painful situations are how we learn. And I found there were layers to the lesson. I didn't get it all at once and there was still more learning - but I have it now and that's what counts.
Wow…. Derek. I was thinking about almost exactly the same scenario you described, that happened to me earlier this year. Suddenly everything unravelled in an almost identical scenario… I could feel your pain in every sentence AND your gratitude from mindful awareness; how sitting with the pain through this process and learning not to cling to what something wasn’t (even fully there if that males sense), even in the first place. Your comment about overlooking the warning words in the first conversations - running away when things get a little tough. My situation was very similar; i looked past similar warning words and periods of silence that had that tense edge and sudden distance in them that you described very well. I also brushed them off. Today i was thinking maybe it could have been this or that if i had asked this further question etc. But, it just wasn’t. Like you I also wish the one I briefly touched souls with, light and love on their journey. My own beginnings of mindful awareness tell me that my own more compatible light and love may be yet to come. Thank you and the universe for this synchronicity today. 🙏🏻
Thank you, deeply. I'm so sorry you experienced something similar, but also happy that sitting mindfully with the pain seems to have brought you to a place of wisdom and equanimity.
One of the last things she asked me was, "Do you think our greatest teachers are also the ones who hurt us most?" Back then, my knee jerk reaction was, "Of course not," but from this vantage point one year later, I'd say, "Absolutely."
Yes I agree - it hurt so much…Similar to your situation mine said - perhaps a little too quickly in retrospect: ‘we need to learn from this; expand’. Almost sounded rehearsed it was too appropriate… At the time all I learnt was how much losing what I thought was a truly deep connection hurt - at least it was from my perspective.
I've learned so much more from the adversity in my life than the pleasant encounters. I also had to admit that the pain I suffered in relationships was mostly of my own doing.
Had I been willing to listen to what my higher self knew to be true, I could have spared myself a lot of grief. In retrospect, it was almost like gaslighting myself...experiencing one thing but insisting to myself no, it wasn't that at all.
People betray us for all sorts of reasons but the betrayals I have most grieved were the ones I inflicted on myself.
I have so much love in my life now because I finally know I AM love.
"Had I been willing to listen to what my higher self knew to be true, I could have spared myself a lot of grief." This resonates so deeply, Marla, thank you. I know in my instance, I hadn't yet learned to tune into my higher self, listen to what it had to say, or heed its advice. When we recognize that we are love, I think this aspect naturally falls into place. ❤️
Same for me, Derek. Be gentle with yourself. When we're ready, we're ready and not before. These painful situations are how we learn. And I found there were layers to the lesson. I didn't get it all at once and there was still more learning - but I have it now and that's what counts.
Wow…. Derek. I was thinking about almost exactly the same scenario you described, that happened to me earlier this year. Suddenly everything unravelled in an almost identical scenario… I could feel your pain in every sentence AND your gratitude from mindful awareness; how sitting with the pain through this process and learning not to cling to what something wasn’t (even fully there if that males sense), even in the first place. Your comment about overlooking the warning words in the first conversations - running away when things get a little tough. My situation was very similar; i looked past similar warning words and periods of silence that had that tense edge and sudden distance in them that you described very well. I also brushed them off. Today i was thinking maybe it could have been this or that if i had asked this further question etc. But, it just wasn’t. Like you I also wish the one I briefly touched souls with, light and love on their journey. My own beginnings of mindful awareness tell me that my own more compatible light and love may be yet to come. Thank you and the universe for this synchronicity today. 🙏🏻
Thank you, deeply. I'm so sorry you experienced something similar, but also happy that sitting mindfully with the pain seems to have brought you to a place of wisdom and equanimity.
One of the last things she asked me was, "Do you think our greatest teachers are also the ones who hurt us most?" Back then, my knee jerk reaction was, "Of course not," but from this vantage point one year later, I'd say, "Absolutely."
Onward and upward we go, my synchronous friend. 🙏
Yes I agree - it hurt so much…Similar to your situation mine said - perhaps a little too quickly in retrospect: ‘we need to learn from this; expand’. Almost sounded rehearsed it was too appropriate… At the time all I learnt was how much losing what I thought was a truly deep connection hurt - at least it was from my perspective.